I found this post that I started back on March 1, which I didn’t post for some reason, but I decided to post now, so here goes.
Madeleine Albright, and also Taylor Swift more recently, once said, “There is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.” Is this statement true? If I, a woman, am capable of ending another woman’s struggles and I refuse to, does this make me a bad person? No, I don’t think so.
First of all, I think it would make me sexist to help another woman simply because she is a woman, especially if I am choosing to help a woman over a man over that basis alone. I think this is obvious; I am not going to elaborate on it.
Second, women often expect and rely on help, rather than working hard to earn the independence they claim to want. When I was a teaching assistant, the female students gave up very easily compared to the male students, who seemed more comfortable making mistakes and forging their own path. Many of female students could have figured problems out for themselves if they had tried harder.
Besides, when a woman gets through something – school, work, or otherwise – only because they received help, then she may end up in over her head because people think she is more capable than she really is. It’s basically setting her up for a lifetime of relying on others. Or, if her peers realize she relied so much on others, then nobody will respect her.
It sounds cruel, but we should stop ourselves from helping our female peers at least most of the time. Not because we want to see them suffer, but because we want to see them succeed on their own two feet.
Help your fellow women, but don’t help them all of the time.